Delinquency of thought
“Why are you single?”
“You are economically self-sustaining but you need to marry to be socially sustaining and happy”
This misguided compliment, often doled out to single unmarried women whether she is a celebrity or a normal citizen, has raised a question: If a woman is single without a life partner but doing great, can’t she still lead a happy and fulfilling life?
Many people will say no, thinking just about her romantic relationships but discounting her other many loving, platonic relationships. In our society, where a woman is discriminated and looked down upon, how can one be sensitive toward the feelings of unmarried women? The worst tragedy is that a single woman is always vulnerable to prejudicial evaluations by married people of both sexes.
A never-married economically strong woman in urban area is considered as not attached, lonely spinster, cat lady who loves autonomy, is carefree, uncontrolled and doesn’t like to be told what to do, and when and how to do things. Likewise, a rural single woman is considered as unattractive, imperfect, having poor and irresponsible parents (not able to give enough dowry), and one who didn’t get the right match due to wrong astrological chart and so forth. But at both the settings, a single woman is considered immature with no social responsibility at all, easy person to get loan from and an object of sexual prey. A single woman is always the odd one out, the one without the man, the one to be felt sorry for having the worst fate.
Expressing anger, depression and sadness is a part of life, but when it is articulated by single woman, it means “need to get laid” reaction from so-called responsible experts.
Even the government policies are not single-woman friendly. Single women are blasted for no contribution to fertility, but the government laws deny her reproductive rights. Likewise, men have inheritance rights but a single woman should reach the age of 35 and assure her parents she will never marry. In addition, a single woman doesn’t have liberty to choose her dependent in her insurance claim as there is a mindset that she don’t have any dependent.
We are in a society where we know how to celebrate marriage but don’t know how to respect people who want to stay single and are doing just fine. Mandy Hale in her book, The single Woman: Life, Love and a Dash of Sass has written “Single is no longer a lack of options-but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day happily and let your Ever After work itself out”.
So, the time has come to break the negative stereotypes of single life and feel proud of one of them and fight over discrimination against them. We must bring down the cultural and legal wall separating couples and singles, and efforts need to be made to reduce implications like self-doubt and insecurity. Some of us have begun this cultural work, but we need much more participation.
The Doklam dilemma
Being a buffer state between the two giant neighbors, Nepal should conduct its foreign policy vis-à-vis China and India in a very sensitive manner. Nepal has always maintained that it would not allow its soil to be used against any neighbor. At the same time, Nepal should make sure that its own national interests are never compromised.
Gaurab Shumsher Thapa
Effect of monetary policy on risk, stability and financial crises
The crisis of 2008–09 has reignited a new interest in understanding money and credit fluctuations in the macro economy, and the crucial roles they could play in the amplification, propagation, and generation of shocks both in normal times and, even more so, in times of financial distress. This may reopen a number of fundamental fault lines in modern macroeconomic thinking between theories that treat the financial system as irrelevant, or, at least, not central to the understanding of economic outcomes, and those that reserve a central role for financial intermediation.
The return trip
It took us over five hours, drenched in rain, walking through treacherous ratomato sluggishly. It should not have taken more than two hours in a normal day. It was the cruellest irony that no sooner did we reach Panchkhal and sat at the Pipal Chautari to rest, than the bus we had left behind, arrived with people in the bus bursting with laughter on seeing us.
Prospects for Nepali talents in the Diaspora
When Indu, a Nepali American teen studying in Virginia, asked Panta whether she could inspire Nepali youngsters into music industry and convince their parents to consider Nepali music as a path to professionalism, the female heartthrob of Nepali music could not fully convince her.
Traffic Police in Kathmandu
As busy and hassling as the traffic system in Kathmandu is, the Traffic Police here have to handle an equally strenuous job. Over 1,400 traffic officers in and around the Kathmandu Valley battle against the pestering traffic and air pollution each day.
Menstrual taboo outdated
I have seen my sisters and friends isolated and treated in discriminatory manner during their first menstruation cycle. They were not allowed to look at the sun, to touch water source, flower, fruits, any male family member, nor even hear their voice. The activist may claim the situation has changed and I do agree but still during every month my loved ones turns into untouchables beings.