Let’s change the way we see rape

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There are certain natural, unchangeable ways in which men and women differ. Therefore, irrespective of the emphasis placed on feminism, there are certain things that it might not be able to alter although it might have positive implications on creating woman-friendly laws and punishing discriminatory and criminal acts directed towards women on the basis of their gender.

Can feminism control rape? Can feminism control harassments? Why is feminism needed in Nepal? I had a discussion with one woman in twitter a few days back. According to her, feminism is needed in Nepal to make people aware that “woman’s dress is not the reason for rape”. How can we claim, without being a rapist or a rape victim, that dresses are or are not the cause of rape? And even if there is an agreement that the revealing ways women dresses are reasons of rape, how can rape of a woman in Burkha?

Feminism can help punish a rapist, but can never control rape. Some say rapists are mentally disturbed people. If this is true, how do we explain gang rape? Can a whole gang be mentally disturbed at the same time? What makes understanding the motive behind rape more difficult is that some rape cases are a result of ‘punishment’ imposed upon the raped by community for ‘violating’ social norms, customs.

If feminism is seen as a way of eradicating these, we need to work it out from the grassroots level. Prevention is better than cure. Let’s make this world a better place. For this, we should stop judging woman from her sexual behavior. Let’s change the way we discourse upon rape, by highlighting the perpetrators more and helping the raped.

Murder after rape is among the worst crimes. Often, a rapist kills his victim in an anxiety of getting caught for destroying her life. So, if cultural, legal and political environment are made supportive of the victim, then maybe these murders after rape can be controlled.

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